Are you a person who has a thing or two that they wish that
they could do but are too afraid to try?
Being unsure of oneself is a condition that is more common than you
might think. The world is full of people
with untapped talent that could actually contribute something worthwhile to the
lot of us but they are too unsure of themselves to allow those talents to flow
forth.
Hopefully, once you read this article, you can begin on the
journey to self-confidence and exploring those things that you always wanted to
do.
Challenge Limiting Beliefs
Begin to start overcoming your fears by determining within
yourself to challenge limiting beliefs.
You can recognize limiting beliefs by noticing sentences that you
constantly repeat to yourself. Examples
would be “It’s hopeless because…,” If you think something is hopeless than you
won’t even try; “I’m worthless because…,” Telling yourself that you are
worthless puts blinders on you that keep you from acknowledging what you are
good at and where you are worthy; and “I’m blameless because…,”telling yourself
only external circumstance are responsible for your outcome is the lazy way
out. You need to take some
responsibility for your outcomes and make the necessary changes within
yourself.
Remember Self Confidence in Early Childhood
You probably don’t remember the first years of life. What it was like as the doctor delivered you.
How you handled asking for what you
wanted the first years of your life. I
can assure you that the first years of your life you had no problem with
asserting yourself. You laughed out loud
when you were happy. Reached for what
you wanted without restraint. Cried with
passion when you wanted to eat. You did
not question whether you would be accepted for your choices to cry or
laugh. You just did so as you wanted
to. This is the same way you should go
after what you want today. Now of course there are limits of the law and
whether or not our choices will hurt others.
Other than that, go for it.
Be Honest With Yourself
It is very important to be honest with yourself. Once you have determined to let go and begin
to reach for what you want like you did your first years of life, honestly
identify what your talents and strengths are.
Make a list of the things that you do well and a list of the things that
you enjoy. Make both lists because you
might find that one or two of the things that you do well are not necessarily
something that you enjoy. The items that
are identical on both lists are definitely things that you should spend more
time doing. However, if you find items
on the list of things that you enjoy doing that you don’t think that you do
very well, spend some time pursuing those interests anyway. The important thing is that you are making
time to do what you enjoy. You will
start to feel more self-confident as soon as you begin pursuing your interests.
Deal With Insecurity
Don’t let your insecurities hold you back. Make note of what makes you feel awkward or
ashamed of yourself. It could be
regrets, a big nose, unruly hair, etc.
Write down whatever these things are and name them. Once you have written down what makes you
feel badly, you may want to tear those pieces of paper to shreds to demonstrate
a release of yourself from their negative influence.
Shake Off the Past
Don’t let past mistakes be the weight around your neck that
pulls you down into the mucky waters of despair and ultimately drowns you. Shake off any mistakes that you make. We are all human and we all make
mistakes. The best thing to do when
making a mistake is to identify the mistake, apologize for it and plan how to
never repeat the same mistake. Once this
is accomplished move forward with your life.
Expect Success
Instead of expecting that there will be problems and that
things will turn out horribly, begin to expect that things will turn out
successfully. Everything that we do
begins with a thought. If we start out
on a project with thoughts of failure then we have set our internal GPS to find
failure. We would then fall victim to
our own self-fulfilling prophecy.
Have a Positive Attitude
Work diligently at having a more positive attitude. Don’t give in to self-pity and avoid pitying
others. Refer to yourself, your progress
and your future in a positive light.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
We are all unique with varying strengths and talents. Don’t try to pattern your life after
others. Know that there will always be
someone stronger, taller, prettier, faster and/or smarter than you. Even so, there will always be someone weaker,
shorter, less attractive, slower and/or not as smart as you. This is just a fact of life and one should
not spend anytime considering these things.
What’s important is that you reach your goals and dreams.
You Don’t Know Everything
Become comfortable with the fact that you don’t know
everything. Don’t let this be a
determiner of what you can and cannot do.
Begin to see yourself as a learner.
If there is something that you want to do or need to do that you haven’t
done because you don’t know how to do it then learn how to do it. If someone gives you criticism, take it as an
opportunity to learn to do better. Learn
from those that do better than you. Know
that you have the potential to learn and accomplish anything.
You Cannot Predict or Control the Future
Know that you cannot predict or control human behavior or
anything else in your life. There are
twists and turns in life that will be outside of your control. Even if you are a confident person bad things
can happen. Identify the bad things that
happen that are outside your control and do not let those things cloud your perception
of your abilities.
It’s Okay to Take Risks
Don’t be afraid to take risks. Try doing things in a new way. If you’ve always shunned away from
relationships but want one, then begin seeking out relationships. If you have been afraid to pursue new career
goals but want to change careers, then spiffy up that resume and start
submitting it. You have to start from
where you are. Realize that it might be
a little rough going at times and you will more than likely have to crawl
before you walk. Once you are up and
walking, however, you will see that the uncomfortable stages that you went
through were more than worth it.
Accept Praise
Know that you are praiseworthy. It is unfortunate but true that many people
don’t think that they deserve the praise that they receive. There are times when something is done well
as a result of luck. Most of the time
however, when someone praises your accomplishments it is more than earned. Accept and believe that the praise is justly
put and know that just like you did that one thing well you can do other things
well.
Practice Being Self-Confident.
It’s just like everything else. Practice makes perfect. When you meet someone new stand up straight
and avoid mumbling. Look them directly
in the eyes and give a firm handshake.
Don’t doubt yourself in your thoughts.
If you find that you are beginning to doubt yourself imagine what a
confident person would do and do the same.
Conclusion
You are already on the road to becoming more
self-confident. Taking the initiative to
read this article shows that you will not stay down. Read through this article again and pick two
to three of the suggestions and internalize them. When you have practiced them read this
article again and internalize two to three more suggestions. Remember that Rome was not built in a
day. Take your time. The most important thing is that you have
begun.
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