Wednesday’s Wisdom: When determining success, look within
yourself and evaluate your own goals and abilities and gauge what would be
success. Don’t worry about what others
do or have. Compete only with yourself.
Most people prefer success.
In fact, if you went to any busy street, a subway or a mall and took a
survey that asked if you would rather be a success or a failure, you would get
an overwhelming response of people who prefer success. What varies is not that most would prefer to
be successful. What varies is how
success is defined.
How Do You Define Success
Success is a relative term.
What is considered success by one may not be considered success at all
by another. Success could be attaining a
high academic achievement, finishing college, landing a dream job, becoming
financially wealthy, marrying the perfect partner or having the perfect body. How success is determined varies from
individual to individual. For this
reason it would be difficult to disagree with my next point.
When determining if you are successful, you should not look
to the left or right to compare your achievements to another. What happens far too often is people take a
look at what is shown them on television or the movies and base their perception
of success accordingly. They apply these
values to themselves and to others. The
problem with determining success this way is much of what is seen on television
and the movies is fantasy. Sometimes the
only way to reach the level of ‘success’ that is seen on television or the
movies is to go and live on television or in the movies.
Compare Yourself to Yourself
How beautiful the day would be if we only compared ourselves
to ourselves. Seeing an opportunity in
each day to be better than we were the day before. Refusing to try and fit into a mold that was
made for another. Determining to follow
our own dreams. “Imagine the stress that
would be lifted from us and the anxiety that would be eliminated if the only
levels of success that we reached for were made from what we ourselves determine
from evaluating our own performance and what we can realistically attain.”
Don’t misunderstand.
It is important that you reach for the very best in everything that you
do. It is also important that you
attribute the title of success to the very best that you can do not what
someone else can do.
Conclusion
It is easy to eliminate the anxiety of reaching for
success. Realize that you are a unique
individual with a unique set of goals. Know
what it is that you actually want from life and make it a point to pursue those
goals. Avoid comparing yourself to
others at all costs. “It is very easy to
compare yourself to others and decide that you are not successful only to one
day realize that you have missed the mark.
Not because you did not accomplish what they accomplished. But because you were so busy watching others
that you did not do the things that really make you happy.”
If you learned anything new from this article then please leave a comment.
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